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131: How to Control Your Emotions and Take the Next Step, with Bonni Stachowiak

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Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed

Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.

First question from Khrist and a few suggestions from us:

  • Recognize your hot buttons or trigger point
  • Avoid handling things in the midst of anger and emotion, if you can avoid them (for example, don't send emails when angry)
  • Instead, write out your thoughts just for yourself
  • Get input from others who are not as close to the situation
  • Start with questions and not accusations/assumptions
  • Sometimes a bit of expressed anger or frustration is OK, assuming it is genuine
  • Consider what you are really able to do or not do
  • Give yourself grace too – none of us are perfect at handling these situations
  • In fact, we discover the most from imperfect situations
  • Book recommendation: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown*
  • Book recommendation: Difficult Conversations*
  • Video recommendation: Brene Brown's first and second TED talks
  • Past podcast recommendation: How to Lead When Someone is Driving You Nuts [episode #48]

Second question from Huzefa and a few suggestions from us:

  • What is it you want about being an entrepreneur and could you achieve it without the risk?
  • Three elements you'd need to be successful:
    • Skill in the field
    • Passion for the work
    • Market of customers who will pay what you are worth
  • Could you do a test-run or two on a small client project that would prove your model and lessen risk?
  • Book recommendation: Empowered manager by Peter Block*
  • Book recommendation: Business Model Generation*
  • Book recommendation: Business Plan In A Day by Rhonda Abrams*

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