How to Manage Abrasive Leaders

Monday’s Episode

290: How to Manage Abrasive Leaders: Sharone Bar-David, author of Trust Your Canary: Every Leader’s Guide to Taming Workplace Incivility*, joined me this week to discuss how to manage abrasive leaders.

Key Points

• Abrasive leaders often don’t realize how they’re acting, or if they do, they don’t realize the negative affects.
• One of the greatest myths is that you can’t do without someone — everyone is replaceable.
• The three steps of SBD:
  • State the Expectation – What values or behavior you expect?
  • Behavior – What are the behaviors that are of concern?
  • Desired Behavior – How do you want the person to act?
• 360 reviews are good for diagnosing a problem with an abrasive leader, but not for solving it.

Resources Mentioned

• Abrasive Leader Risk Assessment
• Trust Your Canary* by Sharone Bar-David
• Abrasive Leaders: Five Mistakes You’ve Made When Managing Them
• Is Your Email Writing Style Putting You at Risk?

Related Episodes

• CFL164: How to Handle a Boss Who’s a Jerk
• CFL210: How to Tame Workplace Incivility

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