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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 40 million downloads and the #1 search result for management on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 40 million downloads and the #1 search result for management on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

    Set the Tone for Speaking Up, with Mike Massimino

    Set the Tone for Speaking Up, with Mike Massimino

    Mike Massimino: Moonshot

    Mike Massimino is a former NASA astronaut and a professor of mechanical engineering at Columbia University. He's also the senior advisor for space programs at the Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum. He was selected as an astronaut by NASA in 1996, and is the veteran of two space flights, the fourth and fifth Hubble Space Telescope servicing missions in 2002 and 2009.



    Mike has made numerous television appearances, including a six-time recurring role as himself on the CBS hit comedy The Big Bang Theory. He has hosted Science Channel’s The Planets and its special Great American Eclipse. Mike is the author of the New York Times bestselling book Spaceman and now his newest book Moonshot: A NASA Astronaut’s Guide to Achieving the Impossible.



    Almost every leader and organization invites people to speak up and make their voice head. As we all know, that doesn’t means it happens in practice. In this conversation, Mike and I discuss how leaders can set the tone for what’s said, and what’s not.

    Key Points



    You’ll know when it’s time to speak up. Your cue is that hair-raising, sinking feeling in the moment of a high-stakes situation or the feeling of confusion in a less intense situation.

    Outsiders and rookies are often the most observant people in the team since they are hyper-aware of doing something new and noticing details a veteran may miss.

    It’s important to speak up when you see something wrong, but equally important is to speak up when you do something wrong. The only unforgivable sin at NASA is trying to cover something up.

    Your title or position may influence how others in the organization speak up (or don’t). When someone speaks up, saying “thank you” in the moment sets the tone for future dialogue.

    Reward speaking up with incentives. The Hubble Space Telescope servicing manager created challenges for people to speak up to reduce spacewalk time.



    Resources Mentioned



    Moonshot: A NASA Astronaut’s Guide to Achieving the Impossible by Mike Massimino



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    • 39 min
    How to Recognize Remarkable People, with Guy Kawasaki

    How to Recognize Remarkable People, with Guy Kawasaki

    Guy Kawasaki: Think Remarkable

    Guy Kawasaki is the chief evangelist of Canva and the creator of Guy Kawasaki’s Remarkable People podcast. He is an executive fellow of the Haas School of Business (UC Berkeley), and adjunct professor at the University of New South Wales.



    He was the chief evangelist of Apple and a trustee of the Wikimedia Foundation. He has written Wise Guy, The Art of the Start 2.0, The Art of Social Media, Enchantment, and eleven other books. He's now the author of Think Remarkable: 9 Paths to Transform Your Life and Make a Difference.



    We all want to be surrounded by remarkable people in our work. A key piece to building relationships with them is recognizing when they come across our radar screens. In this conversation, Guy and I explore some of the key indicators for recognizing remarkable people.

    Key Points



    Remarkable people reflect back to childhood. They recognize the experiences and people that contributed to their success.

    Remarkable people don’t find their passions, they develop them. They know that it’s rarely love at first sight.

    Remarkable people aren’t trying to save the world. They start with small and simple questions that scratch an itch.

    Remarkable people make themselves indispensable. The the do work nobody else wants to do which separates them from the pack.

    Remarkable people interact with a diverse group of people. They want to hear different perspectives and recognize the diversity makes them better.

    Remarkable people have overcome hardships. They’ve challenged themselves to find paths forward through the toughest situations.



    Resources Mentioned



    Think Remarkable: 9 Paths to Transform Your Life and Make a Difference* by Guy Kawasaki



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    • 33 min
    How to Connect with People Better, with Charles Duhigg

    How to Connect with People Better, with Charles Duhigg

    Charles Duhigg: Supercommunicators

    Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer Prize–winning investigative journalist and the author of The Power of Habit and Smarter Faster Better. A graduate of Harvard Business School and Yale College, he is a winner of the National Academies of Sciences, National Journalism, and George Polk awards.



    He writes for The New Yorker and other publications, and is host emeritus of the Slate podcast How To! He's the author of Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection*.



    We all know that we can’t lead if we don’t connect. The best leaders not do this well, but they do it consistently with all kinds of people. In this conversation, Charles and I discuss what we can learn from the best communicators to get better ourselves.

    Key Points



    Neural entrainment is when we click with someone and can finish each other’s sentences (and even our biological responses align). Supercommunicators trigger this consistently across many kinds of relationships.

    Supercommunicators aren’t always loudest or leading the conversation, but they ask more questions and adapt better in the moment.

    Make emotional replies easier for others. Instead of, “Do you have any hobbies?” ask, “If you could learn anything, what would it be?”

    Reciprocation of emotion is key for people to connect well. When another party is sharing something joyful, that’s an opportunity to share yourself.

    When something is more contentious, loop for understanding by (1) asking a deeper question, (2) repeating back in your own words, and (3) asking if you got it right.



    Resources Mentioned



    Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection* by Charles Duhigg



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    • 40 min
    Three Practices for Thriving in Negotiations, with William Ury

    Three Practices for Thriving in Negotiations, with William Ury

    William Ury: Possible

    William Ury is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the all-time bestselling book on negotiation with more than 15 million copies sold. He is co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and has served as a negotiator in many of the toughest disputes of our times. He has taught negotiation to tens of thousands, and consulted for dozens of Fortune 500 companies, the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon.



    William has served as a negotiation adviser and mediator in conflicts ranging from Kentucky wildcat coal mine strikes to wars in the Middle East, Colombia, Korea, and Ukraine. He is an internationally sought-after speaker and has two popular TEDx talks with millions of views. He's also the author of Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict*.



    We often assume that conflict is bad, but William says we actually need more conflict, not less. In this conversation, we explore three practices that will help you thrive in the toughest negotiations. And no surprise — the biggest obstacle in getting what we want is almost always ourselves.

    Key Points



    We need more conflict, not less. The best decisions often emerge from a negotiation.

    The biggest obstacle in negotiation is ourselves. Pauses and silence prevent us from reacting without thinking.

    Zoom in to examine the interests that are behind your stated positions. This often elicits meaningful steps.

    Rarely are conflicts about surface issues. Uncovering your deeper motivations will help you approach negotiation more productively.

    Negotiation doesn’t only happen at one table. Zoom out to at least two other tables: the internal negotiations of both sides.



    Resources Mentioned



    Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict* by William Ury



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    • 39 min
    How to Begin with an Executive Coach, with Scott Osman and Jacquelyn Lane

    How to Begin with an Executive Coach, with Scott Osman and Jacquelyn Lane

    Scott Osman and Jacquelyn Lane: Becoming Coachable

    Scott Osman is the founder and CEO of the 100 Coaches Agency and co-designer with Jacquelyn Lane of their proprietary curation process and the company’s relationship-first philosophy. In his role as CEO, he establishes the vision for the company, leads partnerships and business development, and serves as a leading light of the 100 Coaches Community, which he cofounded with Marshall Goldsmith in 2016.



    Jacquelyn Lane is the president of the 100 Coaches Agency. She has been with the agency since its founding and is a critical pillar of the 100 Coaches Community. Jacquelyn comes to the world of executive coaching through her previous roles in the energy industry and lifelong commitment to improving the lives of all people by elevating the quality of leadership. Along with Scott and Marshall Goldsmith, she is co-author of Becoming Coachable: Unleashing the Power of Executive Coaching to Transform Your Leadership and Life*.



    Perhaps you’ve been considering working with a coach, but how do you start? In this episode Scott, Jacquelyn, and I discuss when to consider coaching, how it might help, and the best way to begin. Plus, we explore the most helpful mindsets to help you get the most out of coaching.

    Key Points



    Leaders who create value at moments of inflection really need a coach.

    Two common reasons leaders seek coaching: (1) getting support with an issue that’s tough to navigate and (2) accelerating their leadership growth.

    Interview three coach candidates and utilize those interactions to discover different ways that you may reach your goals.

    Coaching fees should reflect the value the organization receives from the coaching. Most high-end coaching is funded by the organization.

    Slow is smooth and smooth is fast. To speed up, a coach may invite you to slow down in the immediate short-term.



    Resources Mentioned



    Becoming Coachable: Unleashing the Power of Executive Coaching to Transform Your Leadership and Life* by Scott Osman and Jacquelyn Lane



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    • 39 min
    The Way to Handle Oblivious Leadership, with Robert Sutton

    The Way to Handle Oblivious Leadership, with Robert Sutton

    Robert Sutton: The Friction Project

    Robert Sutton is an organizational psychologist and professor of Management Science and Engineering in the Stanford Engineering School. He has given keynote speeches to more than 200 groups in 20 countries and served on numerous scholarly editorial boards. Bob's work has been featured in The New York Times, BusinessWeek, The Atlantic, Financial Times, The Wall Street Journal, Vanity Fair, and The Washington Post.



    He is a frequent guest on various television and radio programs, and has written seven books and two edited volumes, including the bestsellers The No A-hole Rule, Good Boss, Bad Boss, and Scaling Up Excellence. He is the co-author with Huggy Rao of The Friction Project: How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Harder*.



    We’ve all worked with someone who seemed just a bit oblivious. None of us want to be that kind of leader. In this conversation, Bob and I discuss key strategies for how to stop it and also prevent it.

    Key Points



    Privilege spares you hassles, but has a cost. You risk cluelessness about troubles in the organization.

    Power and prestige can cause leaders to focus more on themselves, less on others, and act like the rules don’t apply to them.

    An antidote to oblivious leadership is less transmission and more reception. Measure two behaviors: (1) how much the leader talks vs. others in interactions and (2) the ratio of questions the leader asks vs. statements the leader makes.

    Either manage by walking out of the room or get into the details with ride alongs, direct help, and doing the work with folks. Be cautious about “managing by walking around” getting ritualistic.

    Hierarchy is inevitable and useful. The most effective leaders flex it by knowing when to collaborate and when to direct.



    Resources Mentioned



    The Friction Project: How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Harder* by Robert Sutton and Huggy Rao



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    • 34 min

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